My 2 year old helped my Girl Scouts with a plant project. She very carefully colored her pot with a red maker, then with extreme and delicate care pealed the sticky off the stickers and applied them to her pot. I was amazed to watch her, at how these 5 and 6 year old girls have been such a influence on her. She adores the Daisy's so much! She can even dance the Princess Pat.
A while back, at my sunday bible study, we discussed the book of James. This particular Sunday, the teacher decided to show us how even God uses postive reinforcement and how it really works. One person, was chosen to leave the room. Then the teacher explained to the class. The man was to walk in a certain path, pick up a paper and give it to someone else. Every time this man did the right thing, the teacher would ring his keys. The man came in, and with in just a few short minutes he completed the entire task!
Next, A second man volunteered. He stood outside the room as the teacher told us this time, the man had to simply walk straight to another man and shake his hand. Thats it! No path, no obsticles, this man was straight from the door. This time however, when the man walked in, he was hit with a noodle everytime he did something wrong. The poor guy had no clue what was going on, he was just being beaten and beaten. He ended up running across the room alot to get it to stop! He never got near the man to shake his hand.
How many times I myself get stuck hitting ppl around me with a wet noodle? Alot! But now when I am yelling at my daughter to clean her room, or my oldest to get her homework done. I really see myself as taking a noodle and hitting them with it.
My challenge to you is to use the keys! Show them positive enforcement when they have done right. Its amazing the change you will see.
I learned something yesterday, and have been amazed at how it works! Instead of saying to my girls "Go clean your room," I tell them, go pick up your books. Or go pick up your toys. The first time i told them, has been the only time! The theory comes from when your husband comes home and wants you to clean the living room. Well, I feel like its clean, the way i want it. But its not to his expectations, I feel upset because i dont know what he wants from me. Well, little ones can feel that same way. So I tell my girls my expectations "Please pick up the toys from the floor" and they know what I want! (as with most parenting skills i pick up, i hope this works for awhile... )
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Has it really been since December 31st that I last posted? WOW.
I just ran across some photos, that i just have to share. It was the end of a long day, i had just taken out Zoey's ponytails, and had walked away for some reason or another. To come back and see that Randy has been letting her drink Diet Dr Pepper out of the bottle. While i didnt think that was the best thing. I just had to take some pictures!
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